For reducing difficulty, I would argue that this DLC is as important to the High Elves as The Grim and the Grave is for the Empire, if not more so.
Also, Handmaidens will be very important, see below. Also you need the DLC to access the Regiments of Renown, which you won’t need for your main armies, but they are great as emergency instant recruits for defending a settlement. First, this guide will assume that you own The Queen and the Crone DLC, because you really want access to the Sisters of Avelorn and being able to confederate Alarielle makes uniting Ulthuan a lot faster and easier.